LovingtoLearn: In the Blink of an Eye...

Monday, May 5, 2008

In the Blink of an Eye...

The warm weather has started.

Relatively speaking, it's warm. I know 90 degrees F might seem to border on "hot" to some people, but to those of us who live in this area, it's just warm. And most of us thrive in it.

Winter, with its grey, rainy gloom, has always been difficult for me. When it's dark and chilly and drizzly (or freezing and windy and ugly), I have to fight depression constantly. Not so in the bright, beautiful sunshine of spring, summer, and fall. Again, thankfully, because I live where I do, three out of the four seasons are usually very sunny -- and believe me, I value this factor highly. I absolutely love the warm spring, the hot summer, and the gorgeous autumn days.

But last summer, in the middle of all that beauty and warmth and energy and joy, something happened to change everything. Yesterday marked 9 months since August 3rd, 2007 -- 9 months since I gave birth to Nathan Jeremy, my little boy who died in the womb because his cord betrayed him.

I remember the morning vividly. It was just a normal day. After making sure everyone had eaten breakfast and was happily occupied, I walked outside with my then 18yo son to talk about where I wanted him to dig some big holes for me in the front yard. We were going to plant a double row of liquid amber trees the coming weekend, and we'd been flooding the ground for days to make the digging easier.

He and I stood in the area where the trees would soon be, and we discussed trivial things -- his work schedule, the fact that he still needed to buy some luggage so he could start packing for his first year at college, and what we were having for dinner that night. I decided to change the planting sites for a few of the trees just a bit, (Paul rolled his eyes good-humoredly), so I kicked dirt over the old white spray-painted circles and sprayed a couple of new ones. Then I was off to take my 16yo daughter to work and then to drive on to the next city for my regular midwife appointment.

As I made my way slowly down the driveway, I waved to Paul, and I saw my two younger boys had joined him. My 12yo son was digging hard, too, and my 7yo son was giving it his all but not getting far. I thought to myself what a blessed Mom I was to have such great, healthy, hard-working, caring, wonderful kids. A few moments later I dropped my daughter at her job and told her I'd pick her up at lunchtime. I didn't know that before then my whole world would turn upside down.

When the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat that morning, I wasn't worried at all. She and I both knew everything was fine. I was healthy, the pregnancy had been completely uneventful, the baby had been kicking away for the entertainment of his siblings the day before, and in only a few weeks, my due date would arrive. This was just a fluke. I smiled and tried to be patient. Sometimes you have to move that little Doppler device all around to find that evasive heartbeat when you have such an active baby.

But no matter where she tried, she couldn't find the heartbeat. And she knew... before I did, of course... and she told me we needed to go in the next room for an ultrasound... but she knew.

As I got up from the table and followed her in stunned silence, I just kept shaking my head. This couldn't be happening to me. My baby couldn't be dead. Gone. Just like that.

But he was. And as the silence echoed throughout that small, dark room, and as the midwife reached for my hand, I understood all at once the overwhelming meaning of what had happened. My baby, still large in my womb, was no longer with me. And there was nothing I could do to change that.

The days that followed were hard ones. I moved through the end of the summer and the fall in a state of numbness, going on with my life only due to the mercy of God. The Psalms, constant meditation and prayer, my other children, my husband, and faith-strengthening Christian music were my lifelines during that time and all winter long.

But with the arrival of the warm weather and the sights and smells of summer coming at me everywhere I turn, I am taken back to last year when I was still pregnant and looking forward to my beautiful, miraculous new baby. And I realize that this summer will be difficult for me in some ways -- but I also know that God is so good. He has proven Himself to me over and over again. He has shown me such a magnificent eternal perspective on Nathan.

You see, my son didn't really die. He was just born straight to heaven. He's there right now, safe and happy, waiting for me. Nathan never had to know pain; he never had to experience hardship; he never sinned. Instead, his entire life is being lived in the presence of Jesus. What an honor! What a fantastic thing! I am so thrilled for him!

Yes, I miss him. So much. I spend time thinking about him and making his grave beautiful and sharing about him. But mostly, when I think of Nathan Jeremy, I am able to smile (though sometimes with a few tears) -- because in my mind I see him running free in the warm sunshine of Heaven.

One day, very soon, I will join Nathan. It will happen quickly. Things can change in a fraction of a second, you know. Yes, in just the blink of an eye.

In the Blink of an Eye

(from Mercy Me's "Undone" CD)

You put me here for a reason; You have a mission for me.
You knew my name, and You called it
long before I learned to breathe.
Sometimes I feel disappointed by the way I spend my time.
How can I further Your kingdom
when I'm so wrapped up in mine?

In the blink of an eye... that is when...
I'll be closer to You than I've ever been.
Time will fly, but until then,
I'll embrace every moment I'm given.
There's a reason I'm alive for the blink of an eye.

Though I'm living a good life, can my life be something great?
I have to answer the question before it's too late.
If I give the very best of me, that becomes my legacy.
So tell me, what am I waiting for? What am I waiting for?

In the blink of an eye... that is when...
I'll be closer to You than I've ever been.
Time will fly, but until then,
I'll embrace every moment I'm given.
There's a reason I'm alive for the blink of an eye.

Blessings

Kim

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A Recipe For You to Try....

COFFEE KUCHEN

3 Cups unbleached flour (I use at least half whole wheat)
3 tsp. baking powder (non-aluminum)
1/4 tsp. Salt
1 1/4 tsp. cinnamon
2 Cups brown sugar
3 Tbsp. instant coffee, dry
1/2 Cup butter
1/2 Cup shortening (non-hydrogenated)
1 Cup milk (nonfat)
1/8 tsp. baking soda
2 eggs, slightly beaten

(Sometimes I replace some of the butter/shortening with liquid Butter Buds or "Lighter Bake" -- which is made from prune butter -- or with applesauce.)

This is supposed to be a very tall coffee cake, so it is baked in a small pan (8 or 9" square). However, I usually double the recipe and bake it in a 9x13 pan to feed my hungry crowd. You can also make the original recipe amount and bake it in 9 x 13 pan and just have a shorter coffee cake. I *do* think it tastes better when it is taller for some reason. The best thing about this coffee cake (other than its scrumptious taste!) is the velvety texture -- very different and very good.

Mix the 6 dry ingredients together. Cut in the butter and shortening with 2 knives or a pastry cutter until the mixture resembles pea-sized lumps. **Set aside** 1 Cup of this dry mixture for topping.

Now mix well together the milk, baking soda, and eggs. Stir into the dry mixture all at once with a wooden spoon just until combined -- don't overmix. Pour into greased pan, and sprinkle with reserved topping mixture.

Bake at 350 F for 50 to 65 minutes, depending on the pan and amount of coffee cake you made. Judge by the color (rich dark brown) and the usual "knife" test (coming out clean from center poke).

Enjoy! It's a little messy, but it will melt in your mouth.....

Favorite Read-Alouds for our Family..... in no particular order, and some are for older children...

Little House series (Laura Ingalls Wilder)
American Girls History series (various authors)
Swiss Family Robinson (Johann David Wyss)
Little Britches (Ralph Moody)
Mama's Way (Thyra Ferre Bjorn)
The Time Travelers (originally titled -- Gideon: The Cutpurse) (Linda Buckley-Archer)
The Phantom Tollbooth (Norton Juster)
The Mysterious Benedict Society (Stewart Trenton)
The Mysterious Benedict Society and the Perilous Journey (Bk. 2 -- Stewart Trenton)
Pilgrim's Progress (John Bunyan)
Little Women (Louisa May Alcott)
Deltora Quest series (Emily Rodda)
Cheaper By the Dozen (Frank Gilbreth and Elizabeth Gilbreth-Carey)
Chronicles of Narnia series (C.S. Lewis)
A Wrinkle in Time (Madeleine L'Engle)
Percy Jackson and the Olympians (Rick Riordan)
Lord of the Rings series (J.R. Tolkien)

Our American History Journey

After years of studying world history intensively (while inevitably reading American historical fiction and biographies on the side because we just couldn't help ourselves), two years ago we decided to actually tackle our country's history from start to finish in a more "formal" manner. Of course, "formal" doesn't mean much around here.... ;-) Mostly it denotes that we have a chronological outline to follow. However, it does not preclude tangents. We love tangents. Fortunately for us, (for many reasons), we live in the United States, and our country's history is relatively short -- so there is plenty of time for those interesting tangents!

Also fortunately for us, we have found fantastic guidelines and enrichment ideas in the American Story themed units from WinterPromise.

http://www.winterpromise.com/

I discovered the WinterPromise company a few years ago when it first started, and I love it! It's exactly the type of curriculum I'd write if I was publishing one myself. ;-)

Actually, for many years, I've cobbled together just such a program for my own family. I've gathered what I consider the "best of the best" from many sources to make our learning interesting, thought-provoking, and fun. Now, WinterPromise does most of the work for me. Though, of course, being who I am, I can't resist tweaking things around a bit and adding this and that.

Still, WinterPromise is the only "curriculum" I recommend to homeschoolers who are not completely satisfied and excited with what they are currently doing. It's the kind of program that can be used in entirety or just in bits and pieces for enrichment. Plus, WP engages every learning style, and that element alone makes learning something all kids can enjoy!

So, as to American History, we began our journey in the fall of '07 with the explorers to the New World, and in May '08, we came to the end of our first homeschool year in a very long time (in other words, since the older kids were little...) that was focused on American history. It was enlightening, and it was great fun. We have a lot of wonderful memories, pictures, and stories.

This past year ('08/'09), we spent September through November studying the election process in an in-depth manner to coincide with the landmark campaign and election of our first African-American president. In December, we spent some time on the Gold Rush days of California, and then when January arrived, we decided to detour a bit. I made a big commitment to become the official National History Day County Coordinator, and 5 of my kids chose to compete in various categories. In addition, I actively recruited homeschooled students from my drama groups to participate with us in History Day.

The National History Day competition encourages children (6th-12th grades, and in CA, 4th/5th grades, too) to learn to research and analyze history as they prepare different sorts of projects (papers, documentaries, posters, exhibits, websites, or performances) for their county, state, and even National competitions. There is a different theme each year, and this year's theme is "The Individual in History: Actions and Legacies." I ended up with 20 students participating in our county's HD event, and it was so exciting. The kids chose to study the following individuals in history:

Samuel Morse
Louis Braille
Joan of Arc
Laura Bridgman
Helen Keller
Elizabeth Blackwell
Gen. George S. Patton
Amy Carmichael
Sarah Emma Edmonds
John James Audubon
Janusz Korczak
Gen. George H. Thomas
John Hart
Prince Henry the Navigator

Do you know who all these people are?! Do you really understand the legacies they have left to this world? These kids certainly do!

Several members of our county's team made it to the Finalist level at the California State competition, and a couple won special awards, and my son Ben actually won the gold medal in the Historical Paper category and will be competing at the National level in less than two weeks!

So this past semester was given over to establishing our county's History Day program. A couple of my own kids' "individuals" fit into the time frame we had reached at that point in our history study... mid-to-late nineteenth century. My 9 yo's Poster was on Louis Braille -- though not American, he did have a profound effect on America with his Braille language via Dr. Samuel Gridley-Howe who brought the 6-dot system back to the U.S. to use at his School for the Blind (Laura Bridgman being the first student he taught using Braille's methods). Interestingly, Jim's group drama about Helen Keller meshed perfectly with his Louis Braille studies, and we were all surprised to learn there was a *lot* we didn't know about the famous "miracle" child.

My 11yo Ellie Rose did her individual drama performance on Elizabeth Blackwell, the first American woman doctor, so that fit in perfectly with our studies, as we came to realize more fully how difficult such pioneer work was in the second half of the 1800s. We also learned that there was more than one side to the whole women's rights issue and found that a fascinating tangent to explore.

Ben's paper carried us back in time a bit to mid-to-late fifteenth century Portugal and Africa where Henry the Navigator was carrying out his military crusades and sponsoring exploration expeditions. Through his research, Ben discovered (and then enlightened us to the fact!) that those expeditions were actually what directly led to the explosion of the Atlantic Slave Trade in Europe.

Shannon's individual drama focused on Amy Carmichael and her work with the children in India (especially the temple girls). Her research highlighted for us what it means to take a stand against the status quo (in this case, both the caste system of India and the "traditional" ways the European missionaries of that time interactede with the people of India) in order to do what is right and best for people in dire need.

Deedee's paper on Janusz Korczak, the famous Polish Jewish pediatrician who ran an orphanage in the Warsaw ghettoes during WWII and was executed alongside his children at the Treblinka concentration camp, also inspired us to really think about what it means to make a difference in this world. Korczak's many books on children's rights live on to proclaim to the world that children are people NOW and deserve respect and fair treatment.

I will continue to coordinate the History Day local contest each year, and my kids will continue to participate in various categories, but there won't be the same need to give it so much time as the county program is now up and running. Therefore, we can get back to the second half of our American History studies! I'm really looking forward to starting things off with a bang as we take two great road trips.

On our first trip, in July, we'll drive through the old Gold Rush cities and experience firsthand what we studied last December. Then in late August, we'll be driving back to Washington, DC. to drop Deedee off at George Washington University for her first year of college. We plan to stick around a while and see all the memorials and museums, soaking in all that glorious American history. We'll also head over to Colonial Williamsburg for a couple of living history days before starting back home (though I hope to make some interesting stops on our way back to California, too...).

As I have time, I plan to post some of the activities, websites, and books we use and love this coming year in relation to our study of American history -- picking up with the Civil War in September and carrying on through WWII by the end of May, if all goes as planned. I will *try* to do this on regular monthly basis! We will be using the WinterPromise American Story 2 as our core guide, with supplements from all over the place, including the following great website:

www.guesthollow.com/homeschool/curriculum

Please check back regularly if you are interested in updates on our progress, and feel free to comment or email with any specific questions you have about our studies.

Hope this helps or inspires someone else out there to wade into history with relish!